Are You OK?

  I wanted to share a concept from Transactional Analysis with you. One that I have found extremely helpful in certain circumstances or situations and a theory that can be really beneficial in aiding self awareness, a prime objective of any Psychotherapy or Counselling.   The OK Corral     The diagram above is The…

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How to find a Therapist.

  We live in an age of infinite options and choice. There is normally always an alternative, or several. We live in a time of high demand and constant information being thrown our way. This can be overwhelming and confusing. When looking for a Therapist most people search on the internet, which is both a…

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Shame

  I wanted to share with you a great article on the idea of Shame, written, not by myself, but by my principle trainer, Bob Cooke. As Bob’s work has greatly informed my own it seems appropriate that I look to his writing to both aid my clinical work and also to inform clients of…

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The Sum of All Our Parts.

  Recently I was lucky enough to attend a training day run by PODS. PODS are an organisation, specialising in recovery from Dissociative Disorders who provide training, support and resources for both survivors, their supporters and professionals working with those who have DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder). It is thought that so much as 1.5% of…

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Depression

  ‘Sometimes we’re afraid to admit that we’re sad, that we’re anxious, that we can’t do it all’ – Nathan Blansett   Below is a wonderful blog written by my good friend and colleague from Seraph Psychotherapy, based in Hull. I am sharing this with her permission as depression is something I have been thinking…

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The Gift of Therapy

  ‘Real treatment, he says, requires an intimacy between therapist and patient that is born from a solid bond of trust.’ Below is an article I came across, written by Barbara Jamison, in which she reviews some of Yalom’s ideas, discussed in his book ‘The Gift of Therapy’ in which he extols the virtues of…

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‘You shouldn’t feel that way that you feel’

‘You shouldn’t feel that way’   I have lost count of the number of times I have heard people recite experiences that begin and end with the summation, ‘You should not feel that way’.   For me, I lump that phrase alongside ‘Cheer up, it might never happen’ or ‘Pull yourself together’. A client of…

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Different Strokes

    I have spent a lot of time this week, talking with clients about how they like to be recognised by others and the familiar ways in which they look for this recognition that can be both healthy and unhealthy in it’s application. I wanted to share here an essay I wrote a few…

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What do you feed?

  ‘An old Cherokee told his grandson, “My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy, and truth.” The boy thought about it and asked  …

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Rupert Spira

Deep within the heart of all human beings lies the knowledge of our own eternity. It is this memory of our own eternity that lives as a kind of longing within each one of us. This longing seeks to relieve or fulfill itself through the acquisition of objects or the experience of intimacy in relationship,…

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