‘Sometimes we’re afraid to admit that we’re sad, that we’re anxious, that we can’t do it all’ – Nathan Blansett   Below is a wonderful blog written by my good friend and colleague from Seraph Psychotherapy, based in Hull. I am sharing this with her permission as depression is something I have been thinking […] Read more »

The Gift of Therapy

  ‘Real treatment, he says, requires an intimacy between therapist and patient that is born from a solid bond of trust.’ Below is an article I came across, written by Barbara Jamison, in which she reviews some of Yalom’s ideas, discussed in his book ‘The Gift of Therapy’ in which he extols the virtues of […] Read more »

‘You shouldn’t feel that way that you feel’

‘You shouldn’t feel that way’   I have lost count of the number of times I have heard people recite experiences that begin and end with the summation, ‘You should not feel that way’.   For me, I lump that phrase alongside ‘Cheer up, it might never happen’ or ‘Pull yourself together’. A client of […] Read more »

Different Strokes

    I have spent a lot of time this week, talking with clients about how they like to be recognised by others and the familiar ways in which they look for this recognition that can be both healthy and unhealthy in it’s application. I wanted to share here an essay I wrote a few […] Read more »

What do you feed?

  ‘An old Cherokee told his grandson, “My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy, and truth.” The boy thought about it and asked   […] Read more »

Rupert Spira

Deep within the heart of all human beings lies the knowledge of our own eternity. It is this memory of our own eternity that lives as a kind of longing within each one of us. This longing seeks to relieve or fulfill itself through the acquisition of objects or the experience of intimacy in relationship, […] Read more »

In Case.

  In case no one told you today, you are good enough.   Have you ever wondered where some of your beliefs about yourself come from? Do they belong to you? Are they based in the here and now reality? Or do they belong to someone else?   Can you change your beliefs about yourself? […] Read more »

New Beginnings

  New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings. Lao Tzu   Everyone has heard the saying ‘when one door closes, another door opens’. Change can be hard though. What if you are used to that one door being open. You know the positioning of the handle and can reach and open it automatically. Perhaps […] Read more »

Look Within

Looking behind, I am filled with gratitude, looking forward, I am filled with vision, looking upwards I am filled with strength, looking within, I discover peace ~ Quero Apache Prayer Follow Read more »

The Need for Recognition and Strokes.

What is meant by the term ‘Stroke’? Transactional Analysis employs the term ‘strokes’ to denote any form of social inter-action where another’s presence is recognised. Therefore any transaction is also an exchange of strokes. While the general term ‘stroking’ might be used to imply close, physical contact, in reality and practice it may present in […] Read more »